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Having worked in child protection for 13 years I am disgusted and disappointed at the recent behaviour of the Dalai Lama. His behaviour involved abuse of power when he was observed on video giving a young boy about 9 years old a command to 'suck my tongue'. Tongues and genitals should be reserved for intimate relationships where there is cognitive ability to consent. The discourse that has followed is of concern with various cultural groups justifying his behaviour as a cultural norm in Tibet (but he lives in China!). What is also concerning is the 'group think' mentality of the observers cheering it on. Child safety trumps cultural norms and I believe he should be sacked from his role.
Grooming is a process used by predators to manipulate and prepare a child (or other vulnerable person) for sexual abuse. It involves building a relationship with the child, gaining their trust and gradually introducing inappropriate behaviour. Signs of grooming include gifts (including lollies), special attention, secrets, and time spent alone. Tactics used by groomers include flattery, emotional manipulation, gifts, touch to desensitise victims, and or threats.
As human service providers, parents and citizens, we have a responsibility to protect children and uphold their rights as stated in the United Nations Convention of Child Rights. This applies to the Dali Lama too! We must challenge cultural norms that turn a blind eye to the signs of grooming and take action to prevent spiritual abuse and child sexual assault.
Prevention is crucial in avoiding the lifelong impact of child sexual assault. By educating ourselves and others on the signs and tactics of grooming, we can better protect our children and create a safer environment for them to grow and thrive. Let's work together to ensure that every child is safe and has the opportunity to reach their full potential.
Using religion or culture as a basis for grooming children is never ok! I'm not here to judge the Dalai Lama, that is in the hands of The Almighty judge! Indeed, I left religion years ago due to systemic child safety issues that failed to be addressed by the institution in a timely manner. It was in ethical conflict with my professional and personal ethics and I had to take a stand. That decision came with personal cost of lost 'friendships', loss of the leadership roles that I loved, family tension, and loss of community. However, what I gained by upholding my ethics was achieving the milestone of individuation, new friends that share my values, freedom to undo and heal from years of mind control, and most of all a deepened relationship with the Spirit. This has only spurred me on to ensure my business at Whole Warrior Solutions serves to educate, advocate for child rights, and provide support for healing for survivors of sexual abuse towards ending modern slavery and human trafficking.
Let's use our individual and collective voices for the safety of children and challenge the discourse!
If you or your child was groomed and or sexually abused I am very sorry to hear that.
Reach out for a counselling session or to a sexual assault crisis counselling service should you feel triggered, want to integrate trauma, or want to learn more about how to protect yourself or your children from predators. Safety is a human right!
Light and love ✨
Photo source: unsplash. Disclaimer the child pictured was not the victim referred to.
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Tania Gorry is the founder of Whole Warrior Solutions based on the Central Coast of NSW.